What Men Notice About You

Attention to vanity will seem shallow at times, but when it comes to attracting men, it's very important. Some women say "I want him to love me for what's inside,” or “I hate working out.” When think like that, you're actually limiting the number of men who will find you attractive. A woman’s physical appearance allows men to form surprisingly accurate first impressions. So you may want to think twice about what kind of image you’re projecting with these traits guys check out immediately.

1. Your Smile

Does your smile seem sweet and genuine, or awkward and forced? Do you have lipstick on your teeth? Do you have food lodged between every single one of your teeth?

2. Your Skin

Guys need to know that you do take care of yourself, and the condition of your skin tells it all. Chances are guys won’t even notice blemishes or other small imperfections you dwell over; however, they will notice ashy or over-tanned skin.

3. Your Makeup

If you’re wearing so much makeup that you almost look like a circus clown, guys will wonder if you’re trying to cover up and what you really look like without it.

4. Your Cleavage

Guys like to look at your chest. They pay attention to how you show off what you’ve got.

5. Your Perfume

There is something about the scent of a woman that drives men crazy. Ask most men and they'll admit that a woman's fragrance has the power to lure them in – or run them off. Certain scents are very popular among men and are recognized as being aphrodisiacs.

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Letting Go of a Bad Relationship

One of the hardest things for any woman is letting go of a relationship that’s not meant to be. We are often attached to the illusion that this man is “the One” for us, and that if we don’t have him or her, we’ll never find somebody new or no other man will ever want us.

Many women remain in disappointing, hurtful relationships for months, even years with the false beliefs that "all men act like this"or "this is as good as it's going to get." If you ever expect to stop being repeatedly hurt and stomped on by men and have real happiness and experience true love, you first have to learn to love yourself, stop expecting other people to give you the love and acceptance you deserve and let go of unhealthy attachments to bad men and bad situations. Wasting precious time with the wrong man will only leave you bitter, and that bitterness will poison relationships with your family, children and any potential relationships you may have with actual good men in the future.

It is not selfish to meet your own needs--in fact, when you finally build up the courage to let go of painful relationships with the wrong men, you will begin to feel freedom and contentment and begin taking better care of yourself. Having an optimistic outlook, positive attitude and belief that the best is yet to come can help you bounce back from the worst of relationships.

If you just got out of a relationship but are harboring a lot of resentment against your ex or against men in general, NOW is not the time to start dating again! If you're in this situation you first have to examine what patterns you keep repeating in your relationships and why you have tendencies to be with emotionally and physically abusive men who mean you no good. Learn to identify your patterns, and the unhealthy beliefs that are causing them.

Don't beat yourself up over all the time you “wasted” with the wrong man and realize that it didn't work because it was not meant to be. Learning from the bad experiences will allow you to progress to the next level in your new relationships as you find the right man. Remember, you have to lighten your load and heal your pain before you can love again.

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Qualities to Look for in a Man

So what are some good qualities to look for in a man? What specific qualities do women look for in a man and how do you know if he's Mr. Right? Here are some ideas.

1. Smile

A great smile is one of the greatest quality of a man. It breaks a woman's resistance and allows her to relax around him without any verbal language.

2. Masculinity
What most women first notice are a man's physical assets, but what should linger in your mind is his masculinity. It's in the way a man moves and talks that keeps a woman's eyes on him and creates those instinctive feelings of attraction.

3. Confidence

Confidence makes a man. A man who is sure of himself, knows who he is and what he wants is probably the best quality a man can possess. He should make you feel protected. There's just something about a commanding vibe and aura of authority that women seeking men can't resist.

4. Eye contact

A man who knows how to have eye contact is a man who knows how to communicate. It's the best way to show that he's listening to what a woman is saying. It also makes a woman feel special and cared for.

5. Aromatic sense

If a man looks good and smells even better, you are bound to swarm around him.

6. Having a sense of style

It's not the clothes that make a man sexy, but how he carries his apparel with confidence and ease that does. Avoid men with styles which are unattractive like tight leather pants, pants that are too big and socks pulled up to his knees with shorts.

7. Communication skills
Conversational skills are necessary for any man to succeed with a woman. He must know when and how to start up a conversation and carry it on intelligently.

8. Being able to Cook
Most men have no problem when it comes to outdoor grilling, but what's most impressive is a man who can get down in the kitchen.

9. Having sensitivity

A man who has sensitivity has a sense of empathy, confidentiality and trustworthiness rolled into one. When you confide something or expresses your feelings to a man, he should be able to lend an ear to listen so you can let off steam.

10. Having a sense of humor

A man with a good sense of humor automatically is sexy. Think about it-- if he can make you laugh in public, chances are he can also make you giggle in bed.

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